This was raw and vulnerable, and it helped me understand the process a person goes through. So that I feel less alone in what Iβm going through.
Relatable and helpful breakup learnings from a therapist.
This video made me hopeful that I can find someone else when the time is right. I also liked how she talked about her recovery with raw vulnerability. I feel a lot of similar emotions.
This was a helpful video for practical advice on how to handle a breakup, and it was reassuring because he did everything βwrongβ and was still OK.
This woman is young (relationship was high school/college), but lots of shared emotions and thoughts I found reassuring regardless of age. And helpful advice.
I've been listening and watching a lot of Bo Burnham's recent material. His Netflix special "Inside" has resonated with me β the songs and general theme β as I feel depression, hopelessness, and nihilism from my breakup. You can also listen to the songs on Spotify if you don't have Netflix.
This is a really impactful breakup movie. There were so many similarities with my breakup, and others in the past like it, that it flooded me with emotions and opened me wide. I cried a lot and woke up the next morning with many emotions still lingering which needed to be felt. So many quotable, powerful scenes... and so well-acted. It hurt to watch this, but a necessary hurt.
I found a lot of the self-help out there completely misinformed at best, harmful at worst. It's disappointing so many people trying to get help can't find good material. So when I found Terri Cole talking about actual, evidence-backed help... I was impressed. It's a great podcast about boundary-setting.
I was really surprised by how much I liked this video. She has excellent resources and insights. She also has a really helpful Notion website with tons of great quotes, resources, and guides.
Lots of great tips in this video. One that stuck out to me: Forgive yourself. I felt a lot of shame and sadness blaming myself for not loving well enough and the mistakes I made. I felt if I could "be better", I could have saved both of my recent breakups.
I really liked the paper analogy that the creator of this video made. It was helpful to visualize why there's pain after a breakup. There were good other insights in this video too.
Some helpful re-framings of a breakup from a psychotherapist. I liked how she mentioned that breakups don't have to be viewed as "failures", but instead, as "complete".
I was lucky to stumble across Amy Chan first on Verywell Mind, and her viewpoint on breakups is refreshing β and eye-opening. She has a great website, and her book seems fantastic as well. I recommend you gobble up as many of her podcast appearances as you can.
Another resource by Amy Chan (mentioned above). This is a great, helpful meditation to release some attachments to an ex. I like that she mentioned you may have to repeat the meditation many times. Healing is a practice, not a one-and-done.
This article is great for men or women. It's important to understand how to rewire our heart for healthier relationships. I've been learning my patterns with my past relationships β and how they've been wound responses instead of from a healthier space.
I haven't found as much quality content for men dealing with breakups as I have for women. And while any content around breakups can be helpful regardless of sex and gender, it's nice to see a quality article written specifically for men.
Here's a simple list, and a good reminder, of healthy habits to form to hang in there during a breakup.
This is a helpful article from Polygon about which movies to watch after you have a breakup. Many of them are for different stages.